Thank you for the broken heart.

Hi there friends. 

I am now writing another crazy post about those lovely things I've learned in love. Yes. Those before and after a jigsaw relationship (it all hurts just the same). I ain't no stranger to that tingling sensation and I would want to let everybody know how thankful I am being way stronger than how I was before. 

Hence, thank you for breaking my heart and letting me realize how powerful I was to stand back on my knees. 

1. Don't expect too much. Live in the moment and let tomorrow handle its own worries. So much for worrying yourself to death, whatever is fated (or destined) will always find its way back to you. Enjoy every single second where God only knows how long he or she will be there to teach you a lesson. 



2. Be the right person for him or her and please stop finding the right person when you can't even be the right person. Sounds fair, right? 

If all you think about is yourself, to be happy and to smile all the time, then you are a certified selfish person. You are and you will be not until the time you hit your head at a boulder. That hard to make you realize that love is not all about self-gratification (try masturbating instead) but rather making your partner happy and contented with you. 

When you finally got that light bulb moment that LOVE IS PATIENT, then wait for the right person to come. Wait for the right moment to be fully mature of what you want. You can't forever run in circles, right? 

3. Trust that person. Never make yourself a cry-baby at the last page of your so-called relationship book. Trust him or her with all your heart; the same level of trust you give to our father in heaven. Trust and have faith. 

If you want to avoid a lifetime of regret, then trust this person. 

4. Spend the right time for yourself and for the other people in your life. Do not throw that energy ball of time for that person. He or she is only a parcel of your life. We may want to be as cheesy as we ought to be, but please. be realistic. I've learned this the hard way. Never, ever lose your bestfriends and so as your precious time with your family. 

That weird transition from one relationship to another, our crying pillows are our friends and perhaps even our dearest brother or sister. There's more to life than love and hence, don't make this your post-doctorate degree. 

5. Never tie a knot around his or her neck. The chicken with that awesome tight rope around his or her neck will easily fall prey to other predators. 

Be possessive at an installment basis. 

6. Support his or her hobbies. Whether it be witchcraft, or walking the dogs to the park or twerking, please. Isolation will make him or her alienated to his or her own world. You'll be the new ecosystem with a new equilibrium which will take another looooong time.
Respect the things he want. If he jogs, then let him be. If he reads a book or drinks a gallon of milk, then throw out all your love and support. 

7. Learn to walk away, sometimes. You deserve somebody better and brighter. I meant this big time and it won't hurt to know if this person is indeed WILLING TO FIGHT FOR YOU in the end. Willing to give up his pair of slippers to walk a mile chasing after you. 

Life is too short. Spend it with the right fit. 

8. Be healthy and live healthy. Okay, I get it. I get it. you are now entirely happy now that you've settled down. But fat is always fat. If you want to add more years to your self-esteem, then do some sit-ups or jog yourself to take the toxins away. 

9. Never cheat on him or her. If you plan out to go on a long long number of years with this person, then right from the start, let the ball roll at the right direction. 

If you love this person, then you are expected to be serious. :)

10. Actions speak louder than words. Don't be martyr and believe everything he says. use your head also but DO NOT OVERTHINK. 

Connecting the dots may had been that childhood hobby but right now, please connect the right dots and not the wrong circumstances which may lead to an overwhelming revolution. 

11. Do not overthink. Nobody is exempted in this post. Please stop overthinking and your neurons will have an early death. I've tried and tested this and it only brings forth unwanted imaginations and unnecessary connecting the dots. 

12. Mothers still know thy best. Our mothers have lived more years than us. They have a more naturalistic instinct when it comes to this gut feeling. 

My mom already warned me ahead of time. But as young as I was and as rushing I wanted to be, I went for the catch and it was a trap.

This is really true. Most of the time, our mothers feel an impending danger that our young hearts are too in-love to sense. (Love is blind)

13. Never ever put breaking up as an option. Don't tell me that you signed up for a contract just to terminate that contract EASILY? Don't be stupid. Fight for for him (or her). 

14. Never EVER account this and that. What do I mean by this? Well, money becomes an issue. The things that we did to him (or her) become an issue. I've done this a million times and I ended up saying more than I've planned. You will hurt that person, right? 

And this is now a word war. Unless you are both by profession accountants. 

15. Texting others while having a lovely dinner. Courtesy please. 

16. Love yourself. 

Thanks for reading. :)