Thank you for the broken heart.

Hi there friends. 

I am now writing another crazy post about those lovely things I've learned in love. Yes. Those before and after a jigsaw relationship (it all hurts just the same). I ain't no stranger to that tingling sensation and I would want to let everybody know how thankful I am being way stronger than how I was before. 

Hence, thank you for breaking my heart and letting me realize how powerful I was to stand back on my knees. 

1. Don't expect too much. Live in the moment and let tomorrow handle its own worries. So much for worrying yourself to death, whatever is fated (or destined) will always find its way back to you. Enjoy every single second where God only knows how long he or she will be there to teach you a lesson. 



2. Be the right person for him or her and please stop finding the right person when you can't even be the right person. Sounds fair, right? 

If all you think about is yourself, to be happy and to smile all the time, then you are a certified selfish person. You are and you will be not until the time you hit your head at a boulder. That hard to make you realize that love is not all about self-gratification (try masturbating instead) but rather making your partner happy and contented with you. 

When you finally got that light bulb moment that LOVE IS PATIENT, then wait for the right person to come. Wait for the right moment to be fully mature of what you want. You can't forever run in circles, right? 

3. Trust that person. Never make yourself a cry-baby at the last page of your so-called relationship book. Trust him or her with all your heart; the same level of trust you give to our father in heaven. Trust and have faith. 

If you want to avoid a lifetime of regret, then trust this person. 

4. Spend the right time for yourself and for the other people in your life. Do not throw that energy ball of time for that person. He or she is only a parcel of your life. We may want to be as cheesy as we ought to be, but please. be realistic. I've learned this the hard way. Never, ever lose your bestfriends and so as your precious time with your family. 

That weird transition from one relationship to another, our crying pillows are our friends and perhaps even our dearest brother or sister. There's more to life than love and hence, don't make this your post-doctorate degree. 

5. Never tie a knot around his or her neck. The chicken with that awesome tight rope around his or her neck will easily fall prey to other predators. 

Be possessive at an installment basis. 

6. Support his or her hobbies. Whether it be witchcraft, or walking the dogs to the park or twerking, please. Isolation will make him or her alienated to his or her own world. You'll be the new ecosystem with a new equilibrium which will take another looooong time.
Respect the things he want. If he jogs, then let him be. If he reads a book or drinks a gallon of milk, then throw out all your love and support. 

7. Learn to walk away, sometimes. You deserve somebody better and brighter. I meant this big time and it won't hurt to know if this person is indeed WILLING TO FIGHT FOR YOU in the end. Willing to give up his pair of slippers to walk a mile chasing after you. 

Life is too short. Spend it with the right fit. 

8. Be healthy and live healthy. Okay, I get it. I get it. you are now entirely happy now that you've settled down. But fat is always fat. If you want to add more years to your self-esteem, then do some sit-ups or jog yourself to take the toxins away. 

9. Never cheat on him or her. If you plan out to go on a long long number of years with this person, then right from the start, let the ball roll at the right direction. 

If you love this person, then you are expected to be serious. :)

10. Actions speak louder than words. Don't be martyr and believe everything he says. use your head also but DO NOT OVERTHINK. 

Connecting the dots may had been that childhood hobby but right now, please connect the right dots and not the wrong circumstances which may lead to an overwhelming revolution. 

11. Do not overthink. Nobody is exempted in this post. Please stop overthinking and your neurons will have an early death. I've tried and tested this and it only brings forth unwanted imaginations and unnecessary connecting the dots. 

12. Mothers still know thy best. Our mothers have lived more years than us. They have a more naturalistic instinct when it comes to this gut feeling. 

My mom already warned me ahead of time. But as young as I was and as rushing I wanted to be, I went for the catch and it was a trap.

This is really true. Most of the time, our mothers feel an impending danger that our young hearts are too in-love to sense. (Love is blind)

13. Never ever put breaking up as an option. Don't tell me that you signed up for a contract just to terminate that contract EASILY? Don't be stupid. Fight for for him (or her). 

14. Never EVER account this and that. What do I mean by this? Well, money becomes an issue. The things that we did to him (or her) become an issue. I've done this a million times and I ended up saying more than I've planned. You will hurt that person, right? 

And this is now a word war. Unless you are both by profession accountants. 

15. Texting others while having a lovely dinner. Courtesy please. 

16. Love yourself. 

Thanks for reading. :) 

A guide for your post office items

Hi, if you've read my previous posting about getting a court clearance, then this post should be handy, too. 

Here's a checklist for you; if you ordered items through these online shops: 

1. Aliexpress.com
2. Amazon.com (in most cases, its vendors don't ship to the Philippines and you'll need another third party shipper)
3. Ebay.com
4. And other international shops. 

I am writing this just in case you feel your items are lost in space or if you get pieces of notification papers from PHILPOST. 

Note: If you ordered items through Lazada, ZALORA and other local shops, you'll have these delivered right to you. 

1. Go to the POST OFFICE if you get a paper from the PHILPOST. 

The lightweight items go directly to your address. 

Experience: My mom ordered a waterproof bluetooth speaker manufactured in Sweden and it arrived earlier than the promised 60 days delivery period. We got a notification paper but no mention of what items are to be claimed. 

2. Go to the PHILPOST location and bring with you Valid IDs and the piece of paper. 

Check this google map for more information. I will be making another blog post about the authorization documents needed, just in case.

This photo below shows the far-end view of the PHILPOST office near the Malacañang of the south (near the famous SRP). More or less, this office is boxed out in the Plaza Independencia (kamo nay bahala label on this dating spot). 

PS: Thank you google for another innovation for everybody. 

This photo below with some guidelines and flowcharts to guide everybody.

3. Go the far-end counter to line up. Make sure you already have a photocopy of your valid IDs at this phase.

Note: the in-charge will ask you to photocopy your ID so be a boy or girl scout. I have a photocopy below FYI. 

4. If it's your turn now, give the letter plus your photocopy of valid ID. You will be asked to write down your name in a series of logbooks and sheets of paper. 

Reminder: You will only photocopy ONCE regardless of the number of items to claim. Patience is a virtue and wait while the guy searches for the parcels. 

5. Pay the needed fees .

Duties: Php 112.00 ($2.50, £1.54)

Postal Stamp Fee: Php 56.00 ($1.24, £0.77)

Total fees: Php 168.00 ($3.73, £2.31) per item(depending on the weight of each item)

After paying these, you get these papers below. 

This is a simple guide to claiming your items. Feel free to share this post to people and don't forget to comment. 

Eldee

Relationship goals

I am writing this great list of goals that every other couple should reconsider.

Take care of dogs. 

1. Locate the karaoke spot in each town. By this would mean being crazily singing our hearts out and crying out those pressures and stressors. Singing is the best way to make us feel alive. I don't have 'that' kind of voice, but singing is one mutual hobby that me and my partner have in common. Monotony should already be in the background right at this time (whether you be at the first month or the fifteenth year!)

2. Take care of a Chow Chow and Siberian Husky. Believe it or not, one good gauge to know if the person you're marrying (ahem) is already mature is to have these selfish pets rampaging in your living room! You'll know the adverse effects whether you can live with him or not in your wildest dreams! 

3. Watch a John Mayer concert in the Philippines--TOGETHER. Why John Mayer? I also do not know. Please don't ask again. Thanks. 

4. Try a cliff dive jump shot. This is worth a shot and any trick with a jump will be worth that hashtag #relationshipgoals and no longer the #squadgoals. 

5. Have #couplefies in all the 44 municipalities of Cebu. And we mean this. Wherever you are, try taking good couple photos at all the places you've been to and make a good mosaic out of it. A good anniversary gift. lol

6. Create a simple youtube video saying "I love you and I need you". This is too cheesy but who says being cheesy is an exemption and an alibi? Now do it. I haven't done this honestly. 

7. Merge up a good business venture. Do this please if you think this person is already an inseparable part of you. If not yet, then think again and you'll be donating money to the drain. Perfect. 

8. Wear a couple shirt in a wonderful Valentine's evening. This would make both of you a laughing stock but, who cares anyway? There's now two of you in the world. 

9. Try that weird love padlock ritual in Korea. If this does not work, try cutting it with a saw just in case of emergency. Hello Stranger (a thai film) inspired me, actually. 

10.Climb one of the highest mountains and I am thinking of Mt. Fuji. At the top of it, you can propose. Lels. 

That's all for now. I will add more to this should I see more crazy tricks to either upload to your instagram accounts or spice up your pre-nuptial video. 

Thanks for reading. 

How can I sleep well? (here are some TIPS)

Getting that good night sleep is  a must. 

Our bodies require resting, obviously. Getting a dose of relaxants and anti-stressful activities might be what our bodies need for now. Recuperation Everybody needs a good dose of relaxants enough to calm your nerves and recuperate your body to the optimum level. 

I have tried a lot of ways, of course. Here are just a few things I do before I sleep. 

Hope this helps.

1. A glass of milk has the perfect glucose nutrients enough for your body to reach its glucose limit. But not too much please and you need to avoid large calorie-foods which may get in the way of your so-called goodnight rest.

When I say glucose limit, our body has this certain meter (case to case basis) which is also related to our calorie limit. The more we eat bread, pizza and other foods rich in glucose, you surely will feel asleep. This goes with a piggy feeling of sleeping right after eating a lot. 

2. Listening to 70s, 80s and 90s music playlist. You can also hit on the play button for Bosa Nova music and I can assure you that there is no more need for you to go out for a beach bumming weekend. (try also Norah Jones' Don't Know Why)

Need I say more? The slow beat of the music makes your heart beat less than plain house music that puts you on your thinking caps. The regulated rate of your heart makes you feel calm and eventually push your eyelids to a definite close. Let's call it a day. 

(I surely will write a good playlist soon on this site. )

3. Try Stargazing. That's if there are stars. Otherwise, check youtube.
   
4. Yoga and more planking routines. Make yourself tired but not too tired to make yourself hungry and grab another slice of bread. You need to at least sweat those unnecessary molecules OFF YOUR BODY. 

5. Soak myself for an hour of online gaming (Dragon Nest). Some might not feel the power to sleep right after but this works for me perfectly. An hour should be enough and that would get me to dreamland after making my eyes pretty tired.

6. Read influential books. Want an awesome reference? Read the bible. 

7. I pray.